TRICIA PARIDO
Emotional Performance Strategist • Speaker • Writer
How do we become more capable of experiencing life in the way we desire... even when we cannot control what life brings us?
I explore the space between knowing what matters to us and actually being able to live from it... how self-authority, emotional agility, personal refinement, and choice shape the way we experience ourselves, relate to others, and move through what life brings.
Creator of Total Emotional Performance™
Knowing what matters to us is one thing.
Being able to live from it is another.
I spend a lot of time thinking about what happens between knowing something and actually being able to live it.
We can understand our patterns. Know where they came from. Have language for our emotions. Recognize what would probably be healthier, more useful, or more aligned… and still find ourselves doing that same old familiar thing.
That is the space that fascinates me.
My work has grown out of years of studying and working with human behavior… and just as importantly, years of being a human being myself.
I am interested in what happens when real life enters the equation. When we are tired. Attached. Afraid. Furious. In love. Under pressure. Trying to stay ourselves while another human being wants, needs, believes, or experiences something completely different.
That is where much of my work begins.
THE QUESTIONS I KEEP COMING BACK TO
Some questions do not need a quick answer. They become places we keep returning to as we understand ourselves, our relationships, and the way we want to live a little more clearly.
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How do we remain ourselves while loving people who want something different from us?
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How much authority should a feeling have over what we do next?
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What actually makes someone trustworthy?
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What is the difference between accepting reality and approving of it?
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What changes when we stop coping through life and begin actually experiencing it?
TOTAL EMOTIONAL PERFORMANCE™
Where the thinking becomes practice.
Insight can help us understand ourselves. It does not automatically make us more able to live from what we know when pressure, fear, attachment, habit, or another human being enters the room.
Total Emotional Performance™ is the applied framework I created to help close that gap.
It brings together self-awareness, emotional agility, discernment, self-command, and intentional response... not so we can control what we feel or what life brings, but so we can become more capable of choosing how we participate in what happens next.
The goal is not emotional perfection.
It is greater access to choice.
Awareness • Agility • Discernment • Self-Command • Choice
FROM MY WRITING
Ideas are meant to be lived with.
Much of what I write begins with something ordinary: a conversation, a reaction, a relationship, a contradiction, a moment I cannot quite stop thinking about. Some of those observations become teaching. Some become questions. Some are becoming part of a larger body of work I am developing. Mostly, writing is where I get to stay curious.
SPEAKING & CONVERSATIONS
Some ideas are meant
to be talked about in a room.
I speak about the places where insight meets real life... how we remain ourselves under pressure, make more deliberate choices, navigate relationships without abandoning ourselves, and become more capable of living from what we say matters to us.
My talks and seminars draw from Total Emotional Performance™, years of work with human behavior, and the ordinary human moments that make these ideas worth discussing in the first place.
The goal is not to give people another list of things they should be doing better. It is to leave them thinking differently about how they participate in their own lives.
Self-Authority & Emotional
Relationships, Boundaries & Reciprocity
Self-Command Under Pressure
From Insight to Application
GO DEEPER
Ideas matter. What we do with them matters more.
If something you have encountered here feels relevant to the way you are living, working, relating, or leading, there are opportunities to explore the work more directly.
My applied work is intentionally selective. Some people come for focused private work. Others enter through guided programs or ongoing practice. Practitioners and professionals may engage through mentorship, education, or professional development.
The format can vary. The purpose is the same: to help move what we understand
into how we actually live.
THE WORK BEHIND THE WORK
Built through practice, study,
and years of paying attention
to human behavior.
My professional background spans psychology, behavioral and chemical addiction, mental health and life coaching, intervention, psycho-nutrition, professional education, and decades of applied work with people navigating change.
I am the founder of Turning Leaves®, the professional home behind my programs, training, and applied work, and the creator of Total Emotional Performance™.
Those credentials and experiences matter to me. Increasingly, I see them as the foundation beneath the work rather than the headline above it.
Psychology • Addiction & Recovery • Emotional Intelligence • Psycho-Nutrition • Professional Education
STAY IN THE CONVERSATION
New writing, ideas I’m exploring, and the occasional invitation to go deeper.
Much of this work continues through writing... observations, questions, stories, and ideas about how we become more capable of living from what matters to us.
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